“I am a gaffe machine, but my God what a wonderful thing compared to a guy who can’t tell the truth,” Biden said.
As an outsider I would say he is the only chance the Democrats have at soundly beating the Republicans and Trump.
Even Bruce Springsteen has said as much. Though he figures Trump will get re-elected because there are no strong Democrat candidates.
Y’all know how hard I stan for this man. I love Joe Biden. He’s a tremendous public servant who has done real good for this country.
He should not run for president.
That long and distinguished legislative career that predates his time as our favorite vice president slash Uncle Joe carries a lot of baggage that I don’t think he wants opened up. I don’t want it opened up. I mean, the Anita Hill testimony, y’all.
Yes people change. I believe he has learned and evolved and I celebrate that. But we have to invest in new leadership.
I am profoundly grateful for him. This country is better because of him. He is doing great work in the private sector and that’s where he should stay.
Co-fucking-signed. His time is Past. I appreciate that he wants to run, I appreciate his service and his qualifications, but…no. Nope. Please no.
I booked myself in for a massage tomorrow with my physio lady cause my jaw and neck are all locked up from the dentist today and it makes you fill out a little questionnaire to better tell your PT what kind of treatment you need. except when I was filling it in I’d just taken a bunch of pain killers and words were hard but then I logged back in to make sure I’d actually booked it and
Reason for your visit?
What kind(s) of pain are you experiencing?
Special Requests
I shouldn’t be laughing, I feel awful, but I’m just imagining you addressing a person this way.
Don’t feel too bad, my physio lady was pissing herself laughing when I showed up. Everytime she tried to pull up my profile to talk about the appointment she’d devolve into hearty chuckling while apologizing continually for laughing at my expense.
And for anyone wondering she was able to ease a considerable amount of the pain. Even while occasionally breaking out into bouts of barely suppressed giggling.
The biggest argument I’ve seen on here against two consenting adults* in a relationship is that said relationship is unhealthy, and therefore should not have a place in fandom. This has been applied to a lot of different pairings for different reasons – villain characters, mental illness, incest – but I think the one that gets the most attention is age differences.
The logic goes like this: age differences are always unhealthy and are therefore also immoral, and we cannot “normalize” this bad behavior lest the children (think of the children!) think that age differences are okay in real life.
If this is you, I have some news that’s gonna rock your world: age differences ARE okay in real life. People marry people older than themselves every day! Right now there are millions of people all over the world in relationships with 3+ years difference between partners and that’s okay. Your personal values – that everyone should be in a relationship with someone close to their own age – are not everyone’s personal values. And, your personal values are inherently subjective yardsticks with no real inherent meaning other than that which you ascribe to them.
“But age differences are abusive!”
Nope. Nu uh, no way. You can have a relationship with 2 people born on the same goddamn day that’s a dumpster fire and you can have a healthy and loving relationship between people with 10 or 20 years between them. Saying otherwise is the worst kind of conservative republican pearl clutching, and if that statement surprises you then you need to take a step back and look at what you’re advocating.
My sister and her husband are six years apart. My parents, 12. I have a friend whose parents have a 26 year age difference. Do you find that personally gross? Maybe – who cares! It’s not your life, and no one else is telling you that you have to marry someone you find old and gross. But it is every person’s individual right to be with the person that they want to (provided that that person is also a consenting adult), and saying “but I don’t think they should be allowed to be together because I personally find it icky,” is literally the far-right’s justification against the LGBT community.
“But what if one of the people is really young and the other is really old!”
Is the younger person a legal adult? Yes? Then it’s not your problem! Is it unhealthy? Maybe! Power dynamics can be complicated, but complicated ≠ immoral. Half the fun of fandom is taking two people that don’t automatically fit together and figuring out how to make that work.
Do large age differences have the potential for abuse? Sure! Is that abuse pedophilia? That depends – did you answer “yes” to the question about being a legal adult? Then no! It’s not pedophilia! If neither character is a minor, then it’s not pedophilia! Period! End of story!
I made a post talking about a 40 year old dating a 50 year old, and got this comment:
“it’s creepy to normalize such large age differences, yes, and such relationships can have their roots in pedophilia, but they’re not always such”
Pedophilia has GOT to stop being everyone’s go-to word for “things that I personally dislike” because there is literally no way in which a 40 year old dating a 50 year old can be pedophilia. The power dynamics between someone that’s 20 versus 30 can be complicated. But 40 and 50? The difference in power and shared life experiences are negligible.
Your personal feelings of disgust ≠ objective morality.
If you don’t like it, don’t read it.
*two consenting adults, two consenting adults, two consenting adults – everything written here is about two consenting adults. I better not get people on here saying that I’m advocating for children in relationships with adults, I s2g.
This person here:
reminds me of this person here:
18+ are adults Heather.
Did you even read what I said?
There is SCIENTIFIC PROOF that the brain continues to develop until you’re 25 !!!!
So just to reiterate:
Pedophilia is a word that had both a legal and a medical definition, neither of which encompass an 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, or 24 year old. Period. End of story. There are plenty of things you can call a relationship with someone older/someone under 25 that you personally disapprove of. Those are: problematic, toxic, abusive, dangerous, coercive, manipulative, etc. The word that you cannot use is pedophilia, because words have meaning, and that word does not apply.
Also, using medicine as your justification for why someone who’s 23 can still be in a pedophiliac relationship is hilarious, considering the medical definition of pedophilia cuts off at puberty. It’s the legal definition that’s more expansive, not the medical one.
I have a really hot take for you: when it comes to human development, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Different people reach different developmental milestones at different times, and there can be years of difference from one person to the next. There are people who are 20 years old who are “mentally mature,” and there are people who are 30 years old that aren’t.
Here’s another hot take: the legal definition is important, because where you are in your life is important, and so are the legal ramifications of your actions. If your 16 year old cousin starts dating a 30 year old, there are a lot of things the adults in their life can do. Call the police, for one. Their parents can ground them, take away their phone, take away their car, send them to boarding school, move across the country… the options are limitless. You know what you can do if your 18 year old cousin starts dating a 30 year old? Try to talk them out of it. Their parents could threaten to take away financial support (if the cousin has that), or disown them. That’s about it.
So from here, my question for you is: what, precisely, would you like to change around the parameters of what relationships are pedophilia? Like, are you advocating that there should be legal ramifications, i.e. the government sets an age of consent higher than the legal age, the way they do for alcohol? If a 19 year old is too immature and irresponsible to consent to sex, are they old enough to vote? To sign a legally binding contract? To open a credit card? There are a lot of 19-year-olds who do far more irreparable damage to their lives with credit card debt. Should we just change the legal age from 18 to 25 and be done with it?
Or do you think they should only face social ramifications, i.e. people who are in those relationships should be shunned and shamed?
Now here’s the real question: if you knew a 26 year old in a relationship with a 23 year old in real life, what would you actually do about it? Would you harass them? Talk shit about them behind their backs? Try to intervene? Would you call the police?
Here’s the realest question: are you really just looking for an excuse to harass people on the internet that ship things that you don’t like?
My fiance was 18 when we started dating. I was 26. He was still 17 when we met. I probably wouldn’t have initially been interested if I’d known how old he was, but we met online and both thought the other was closer to our own age, and by the time we figured it out we were both super into each other. I’ve always been a little emotionally immature, autism does that.
We are one year farther apart than D.Va and Lucio – one of the ships I most frequently see this “pedophilia/infantilization” horseshit spewed at.
And neurodivergences rarely travel alone, so guess what I also have? Anxiety, impostor syndrome, and a tendency to blame myself for things and see myself in the worst possible light!
I have literally had anxiety attacks over this shit. I’ve watched people angrily delete completely unrelated posts because they came from McReyes shippers (nevermind that even under fanon Jesse was only under 18 for the first few months to a year of their 20-year friendship, and with the new Deadlock lore coming out with Ashe it’s unlikely he was underage at all). Because they were “endorsing pedophilia” for writing a ship where the characters knew each other for less than a year while one of them was underage. The exact same circumstances, albeit with a larger age gap, as my own relationship.
Hell, I don’t even ship it myself and I was still affected by the screeching antis calling it fucking pedophilia. Probably just as much, because the McCree and McHanzo parts of fandom were rife with that shit, so I was constantly surrounded by it.
You wanna talk about how fiction has effects on real life? SO DOES YOUR FUCKING HARASSMENT.
Everyone is panicking over TOS-es right now as they find a new home as Tumblr gets flushed down the toilet. I don’t like those random TOS breakdowns because the analysis is always wrong.
Anyway this is what people pay me to do and I will now do it for $0 because I’m tired of everyone spreading misinformation. This post is not a substitute for legal advice etc. Reblogs are appreciated because I literally see TOS nonsense on my dash every day.
Any more experienced copyright lawyers please feel free to weigh in – it’s part of my field yes, but my wheelhouse is more film production COT rather than derivative works.
Google doesn’t have rights to do whatever they want to files you upload to Google Drive
Their TOSes are annoyingly broad in drafting but essentially boilerplate clauses that they need to host your work, use google translate on it, make it searchable etc. They cannot steal your fanfic. They cannot modify your art and use it for whatever.
Your work MAY be threatened (that is, deleted) thanks to FOSTA/SESTA, which imo is a clown provision signed by a clown that sent safe harbour down the toilet. This and this has more information (I’ve skimmed but not perused both), but the tl;dr is: similar to Tumblr, there was a ham-fisted attempt to protect victims of sex trafficking and all it really did was make cloud based services start deleting user files whether relevant or not.
Uploading work to dA doesn’t give them a license to sell it to Hot Topic. This post is incorrect. Debunked here and corrected by the artist himself here. Your art is safe.
There’s a breakdown of the TOS in there that’s pretty much wrong on most points, if someone wants me to do a not-wrong version, ask. This may help.
All you really need to know is that like Google, I checked it over and nothing in there puts you at risk for dA asserting ownership over your work or selling it – they need those rights for thumbnails, search functions, resizing etc.
Yum. I like this one. Easy to read and clearly explained for most people with basic reading comprehension. Section G – What We Do With Content will tell you everything you need to know.
Basically, they have the same clauses about you granting AO3 a license to modify/etc your work, but they take the trouble to explain to you exactly what that means, and how they use it to improve accessibility etc.
No history of content purges as far as I know. Explicit content is allowed with limits eg. no child porn.
Same deal – you’re looking for 1. WordPress – Responsibility of Contributors, with the exact same thing as everybody else. They also do a decent job of explaining what they use the license for (though once again, it’s standard), albeit not as beautifully as AO3.
Same old standard licensing clause, again doesn’t let them steal your stuff.
Incredibly…open content policies…you can basically do whatever you want so long as you don’t break laws or commit fraud it seems? If I’m wrong, feel free to correct.
Hope this helps. Feel free to force me to read and explain any other site TOS documents. Again, more experienced copyright lawyers, feel free to correct me if I clowned up somewhere.
Is now a bad time to mention I actually don’t hate this site? I hate the owners. Hate the staff. Hate the incompetence of whoever is in charge here.
But I love the site, love the format, love my mutuals, my followers and all of the amazing content creators here. I don’t know what I’ll replace this with if anything.
I’m a lesbian and somehow I manage to walk down the street and not ogle women I find attractive, or cat call or degrade them, or touch them without permission, or interrupt their daily lives, it’s almost as if I’m treating them like human beings despite my attraction to them. What an insane concept.
omg same
We were arguing about dress code in a meeting at work. And while my department knows I’m queer the other departments did not. As people (men) were saying that women showing skin and wearing tight clothes was distracting. I spoke up finally and said.
“I’m attracted to women.”
Everyone turned and looked at me and I was like “uhhh” so I finished.
“I’m attracted to women and I can still do my job. Regardless of what someone in my class is wearing. I can still teach. So why can’t you?”
The men all stayed silent.
YES FUCK YES POWER MOVE
Thank you for your service, notmadeofgold is braver than any marine.
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